- Be on time. Unpunctuality is a fault with *no* redeeming
features. (However, if your date is late, don't let it
spoil the evening -- remain pleasant!)
- Wear something that makes you feel pretty -- an outfit
that's proved itself, with comfortable shoes.
- Tell yourself you're not nervous, just excited.
- Read a newspaper or watch a news program that day so
you'll have something to talk about and sound as if you
know what's happening in the world.
- If you can begin with the exchange of warm relaxed
smiles, you have a lot going for you.
- Be open -- to him, his plans, and the shape the evening
takes.
- Use every opportunity to be observant, sensitive,
perceptive, and appreciative of what your date does or
may have done.
- If something embarrassing happens, "confess" so
that you can both laugh over it.
- Avoid arguing over things that won't cause either of you
to lose a limb. In other words, chill.
- Don't look for a fight. Debate topics, don't argue them.
- If you're having a good time, let him know it.
- Call him because you've just heard something that he'd
love to know about, a joke on a favourite subject, or a
piece of news relating to one of his heroes. He will feel
that you two are really on the same beam, and it will
encourage him to think of you when *he* has news he wants
to share with someone.
- Be busy. Projects of your own make for much more
interesting discussion than last night's TV program.
- Caring about each other more than petty victories is the
essence of positive loving. Equality is not measured by a
single act.
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